Sex for the Big Woman
In American culture, no matter how much you’d like to believe it, “big” is not necessarily viewed as “beautiful”. This is especially true of sexual intimacy. For the overweight woman in particular, the lack of positive feedback about her size during her teenage years can result in permanent problems with her self-image. The overweight teen isn’t asked out for a date, never has the opportunity to give or receive flirting behavior and never has to fend off a teenage boys only interested in sex.
Even more difficult psychologically, is the woman who was thin as a teen and went through all the sexual challenges of the teenage years and then gained weight. She is generally unhappy with her weight gain and may be obsessed with losing weight. Diets are constantly on her mind. She may try to find attractive clothing, but can be discouraged in her quest there as well. Even if the woman has a partner who “loves her the way she is;” the fact is--she doesn’t love herself. She doesn’t even like herself. The fear of rejection and self-hatred may create such tension and stress about performance that she never reaches sexual satisfaction
Coupled with the view of herself as ugly and unattractive as well as not physically attractive, obese woman may have difficulty in achieving some of the more energetic sexual positions which would allow her more sensation. Her stamina for prolonged sexual gratification may be reduced. Finally, constant dieting can reduce her libido.
With all these strikes against her, it is surprising that obese women obtain any satisfaction sexually at all. Solving this issue and participating in the enjoyment of sex is something that can and should be done by both parties in the marriage, but it takes a completely different viewpoint on oneself and one’s body.
The big, beautiful woman accepts her body for what it is; instead of focusing on her weight and diets and counting calories, she looks for ways to focus on what gives her and her partner pleasure. She can find ways to both give and receive.
In no sense does this mean that she just lets herself go; knowing she looks her best is a pleasure to her and those around her. Beauty is so much a state of mind and the enjoyment of sex for the big woman is as much mental as physical.
Sexual sensations are the same for a woman whether she is large or bony. She can provide pleasure and receive it in the same way a thin woman can. For a very large woman there may have to be some adjustment in positions made, but that is part of the enjoyment of sex. Some of the literature available is quite descriptive about the positions, but the consensus seems to be that most positions work satisfactorily for sexual enjoyment with only minor changes
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Sex Secrets for Big Women
Want to be a big beautiful lover? Nancy and Andrea, two BIG women, understand how difficult the 'diet or be sex starved' attitude of today's society is.
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